Here's some suggestions I followed for the date I had with my blind date.
Suggestion: Don't expect him to pay or act like he's supposed to. Make an effort to pay even if you're just faking it.
He paid for our drinks at the counter like the restaurant expects and we sat down to talk. He mentioned he was hungry for a snack and I mentioned they have a yummy hummus and veggie plate. He liked the sound of it and I said I'm going to go get us one, my treat. He totally looked pleasantly surprised that I'd offered. I got up to order and pay before he even had a chance to protest.
Positive/Negative: Positive
Suggestion: Don't verbalize your low market value before sex. The idea being guys always ask themselves, "Can I do better?", why answer that question for him by telling him yes.
As you all know I have some hang-ups about how I look. I know I'm attractive, but I don't feel beautiful by my own high standards. I have been known to seek a compliment or two just to confirm he finds me attractive, and I do this by self-deprecating comments. I took this advice to heart and didn't beg, borrow or steal/fish for one compliment. He found me pretty and said I looked just like my pictures, and he said that all on his lil ole lonesome. Nice.
Positive/Negative: Positive
Suggestion: Don't try to be too witty or funny. The idea behind it is most guys aren't funny so when you come off as witty it comes across as weird competition - you're doing his job for him, because guys are supposed to make the girls laugh.
I really paid attention to this one because I am quite witty. I had no idea this came across as competitive. I wanted juys to laugh at my humour, but can kind of see how this looks manly. I laughed genuinely at his humour and held off on my own - I think I did it before to show myself as smart enough. I could tell he liked making me laugh. I didn't find it that difficult not to jump into my stand up routine.
Positive/Negative: Positive
Suggestion: Have fashion style or sense. Theory is if the guy can tell you haven't put any effort into getting ready to see him, you're fucked but not in a good way.
We had talked on the phone before meeting and he'd mentioned he liked lingerie. Don't ask me how this came up. I could tell in the context of the conversation he meant he liked feminine women, not a slutty ho. I dressed prettily in skirt and sweater and made sure I put a pretty pink camisole underneath it. I wore high heels because I knew he was tall and I knew my legs would look fab. His eyes took me in appreciatively, but not hound doggedly. He liked.Positive/Negative: Positive
Suggestion: Keep the conversation going. The expectation is if the conversation dies you'll be able to keep it rolling so he doesn't have to sweat it.
I'm an easy conversationalist so this wasn't hard, but when it did slow down I made sure it didn't get awkward. I wanted him to feel good about it. At the end of the date I flirtily asked him if he found me easy to be with. I knew I could ask it because I knew I was. He said I was and smiled.
Positive/Negative: Positive
We will be meeting on the weekend. He liked me, he liked me a lot. I liked him too. I'm going to keep with the advice and if things get rolling I'll make sure I include my responses to such suggestions as: Don't hold the pussy hostage.
