I think I've found the holy grail of online dating. Meet multiple men. This en masse meeting allows you not to get too caught up in wondering if he'll like you. The difference in my current experience is quite remarkable. Plus I followed the suggestions
Virgle Kent made and had a positive experience.
I think I'm a fairly typical female in that I worry I didn't make enough of an impression and start to wonder if he liked me enough. In the past I've been known to send a thank you email after the date, perhaps a shit test, but more like a a way to gauge his feelings of me. I realize now this reeks of neediness. Now I don't contact after the date. At All. If he's interested he'll get back to me.
Date number two last week, The Teacher, said he'd like to see me the following weekend. I said, "sure, give me a call." He called Friday evening and said he had friends arriving in town but would be interested in a Sunday evening movie. I said great but I had dinner plans and would run it by my hosts to see what time they were planning dinner. I left a voice mail with The Teacher and said I'd be able to do the late movie after finding out the dinner was later, didn't want to eat and run. I didn't hear back from him. No call. In the past this would have made me pick up the phone and leave another message. "Did you get my earlier message?" I didn't figuring if he'd lost interest over a change in time then he wasn't for me anyway.
Yesterday he called me and I was my normal friendly self and didn't even bring up his lack of response to my message. The message I'm sending him, is I'm not terribly caught up in our getting together or not. Sure enough he asked me to a movie on Thursday. I'll go.
I think I can remain somewhat detached from it all because I also met Inspector Guy on the weekend and had a second date with The Cop. I have options. I don't have to limit myself, I'm not in a committed relationship and am not cheating. I feel a little like the bachelorette!
On the list:Nice Guy (
perhaps too nice)
The Teacher
The Inspector
Removed:The Cop (
took him off myself)
Upcoming:Oil Man
Fitness Man
I'm conscious of feeling entitled, a complaint many men make about women who think they're all that. I don't think I'm all that and can be quite hard on myself, I do however think I deserve a positive, healthy relationship and meeting a number of men with the idea of meeting that goal is okay.
