I am counselling someone I work with to gain perspective. One of my first suggestions was to take some time off because I feel a project loss and fatigue have combined to make this person difficult to reason with. Perhaps reason with is a bit strong, this person is highly intelligent so reason isn't the issue, it's more a passive aggressive unwillingness to change direction. The staffer refused to take time off which was his first mistake. I don't often make the suggestion in fact it was the first time in his work history of three years I'd even suggested it. That was his first clue. I won't go into details of what steps, 2, 3 and now four are but let's just say I'm watching this one carefully.
As I contemplate perspective I realize I have the same tendency in my personal life. I lose sight easily if not gently guided by others who have my back and interests at heart. What I clearly believe is the right way to think or feel about something is too easily swayed by my single view of it. I have perhaps even formulated the answer or come to a conclusion without examining all its pieces. I may break things down too simply in order to avoid analysis and other times over analyze and lose sight of the overall view. Without people I trust in my life I could easily become someone I wouldn't like very much if I met her on the street. My friends to a large extent give me perspective. I choose very carefully who I let into my life but my choices have paid huge dividends. I've picked people who aren't afraid to call me on bullshit and yet aren't afraid to love me even when I don't love myself. They give my life perspective.
Some of those people are readers.
Thanks.
